Thursday, October 28, 2010

WWKD: Boobs

Dear Kasey,

Since you are awesome and all knowing, I will bring my question to you.  Should I get breast implants?  In a previous (read pre-kid) life, I had decent boobs, not huge, but a solid B cup, which was proportionate to my body size.  After spending the last five years of my life having and breastfeeding my children, I now have shriveled, droopy barely A cups.  They are gross.

My concerns with getting implants are 1. The pain.  2. Will they look worse than what I currently have?  My husband has the following concerns 1. The cost.  2. The message plastic surgery sends to our children.

I do not want porn star size boobs, I just don't want to be be a 30 year old woman who buys her bras In the pre-teen section.

Itty Bitty

If you aren't getting anything totally outlandish I don't think you're sending a bad message to your kids. I don't know how old they are, but your reasons are well thought out and it sounds like it's to make you happy with your body. If they are really young maybe they won't even notice. My friend's mom got implants after her husband had an affair. That just didn't have a "doing it for yourself" feel to it. It made me sad, if I may say so, she had a nice rack. She was/is a lovely woman and she let an idiot move by a man drive her to change her body. Have you seen the movie Singles? When Bridget Fonda goes to the guy that played Lone Star in Spaceballs tells her that she's perfect and not to get a breast implants for Matt Dillon's character? 
I wish she would have had a doctor like that. 

I will put myself in the kid shoes and think of how I would feel if my Mom told me she wanted breast implants. I would ask her why, if she gave the explanation that you did I would be okay with it. I would be way nervous about her undergoing elective surgery, but I wouldn't think less of her or my own boobs. Will they use your implants as an excuse in their teens for why they should be able to get tattoos, pierce their nose or what have you? Oh I'm sure they will. That is how teens roll. Everything you can do or have ever done teens think they have the right to do too. 

If you have the money and it's something that's really bothering you and you've thought of all the risks then it's up to you and your husband. It might be hard for him to understand having not had boobs. So be understanding of him not understanding. There is really nothing to compare it to on men. Some men have problems only having 1 testicle and those aren't (unless you're wearing some really risque pants) noticeable to the entire world. There are plastic surgery horror stories so please do a lot of research on doctors for your own sake. 

People might say it's superficial or this or that, but if it's for you it's for you. It's about how you feel. I mean, I put on make-up everyday. I know that's not surgery, but whatever. I'm not doing it to attract men or so people think I'm pretty. I do it because it makes me feel better and more comfortable with myself. Is it weird that I have to cover my eyes in a crap load of in eyeliner to feel more comfortable? Maybe, but it is what it is. 

All this being said, I'm not sure if they will look better or worse. I suppose all that depends on the doctor and how your body takes them. Good luck with your decision. That was maybe not all that helpful, but it's the best I can do. 


Gary's third pottery blog said...

There was a TV show I watched a couple of years ago while cat sitting, something about a makeover, where people ask for a complete physical makeover. Clothes, hair and makeup plus plastic surgery etc. On the one hand, it depressed me that somebody didn't try to do their best and be happy with how they are. On the other, this one nice lady from Nebraska was such a depressed and down woman, it was amazing what the treatment did for her self image and self worth. So, if it is something that makes you feel a lot better about yourself, then it is your business and go ahead.

Reverend Awesome said...

Hell yeah, Gary!

k.a. barnes said...

Yeah, if it makes you feel good about yourself and gives you more confidence, go right ahead.

George and Maureen Johnson said...

I feel that each and everyone of us is totally unique, in design, shape, thoughts, etc...that is what makes it worth getting up in the morning for me! I think that one should do what one feels like. If breast implants will make you feel better then go for it. I just agree with Kasey, do your homework! Be safe, be smart!
My suggestion is accept breast implants for what they are. If you will feel better with them then do it. Don't do things to merely please others, or think that it will. It's all about how You Feel, not anyone else! :)

Both Sides of Ben said...

yeah, seems like if someone wants to change their body there are many ways to do it. working out and eating right can cause modifications within the range of normalcy. (People can lose drastic amounts of wieght, changing the way their body looks, people dont look down upon that). I think if a person really did want to have implants or plastic surgery it would make sense to keep it within a healthy range. nothing wrong with that in my opinion.

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